Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Polyamory and DeFacto relationships

The below passage was lifted from a blog on the Polyamory Australia website. I wonder what this means for Polyamorous relationships? Is the Government really catching up?



"What is a de facto relationship?

Under section 13A of the Interpretation Act (1984), a de facto relationship is defined as “a relationship (other than a legal marriage) between 2 persons who live together in a marriage-like relationship”.

In deciding what constitute a “marriage-like relationship”, the Court may look at the following factors:-

the length of the relationship between the parties;
whether the parties have lived in the same residence;
the nature and extent of common residence;
whether there is, or has been, a sexual relationship between them;
the degree of financial dependence or interdependence, and any arrangements for financial support, between them;
the ownership, use and acquisition of their property (including property they own individually);
the degree of mutual commitment by them to a shared life;
whether they care for and support children; and
the reputation and public aspects, of the relationship between them (ie. how their relationship is perceived by others, do their friends and family see them as being a couple?).

It does not matter whether it is a heterosexual or homosexual relationship, or whether either of the partners is legally married to someone else or in another de facto relationship."

Quoted from a document by Butlers Barristers & Solicitors. (www.butlers.com.au)

Monday, February 15, 2010

I feel like I am living a lie

I really do I so want to discover myself, what if what I am dreaming of is not me is not what I want. If I am not able to discover, to try, to experience how will I ever know. Maybe I am not living a lie maybe this is the life I will want but I will never know if I yern for other things.

Where the hell is my phone

The last time I lost my phone I found it in a place my wife had already searched then within a couple of days it went missing again. I think my wife is stealing my phone, I have had enough I think I will shut it off, just disconnect it, there is no point having a mobile phone if you can never have it. .oO(or is my paranoia).

Just appologise

It is just not worth it I just need to appologise in such a way that does not arrouse suspisions as I can never remember enough of the details to make an accurate assessment of who is right. I think she knows too and uses it to argue more efficently .oO(or just my paranoia running away with me).

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Alcoholism

As a son of an alcoholic & a sufferer of chronic depression it is such a struggle for me to not take up the torch that my father has passed to me and become an alcoholic. I wonder what it would be like some times though. Currently I abstain from alcohol .oO(mainly because my wife is scared of me becoming a boozer) but I don't believe that is beating it, it is more like avoiding it.

Sad Days

Today my wife went into hospital for surgery. I was quite a sad experience having to leave her there. I am crossing everything I have that things go well.

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Fight

I had a fight with my wife this morning and it hurts. I am not sure really why we had the fight, I guess it is the 13 -15 hour days we've been working and my illness. I hate to fight, it gives me a bad feeling like I've done something wrong but I can't work out weather it is me in the wrong or not so I guess I should just assume that it is me all the time appologise and get on with life.

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Happy Christmas

I would like to have sent personal messages but I have lost my phone, so if you ever stumble across this you'lll know who you are.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Sometimes I feel like I'm in a Prison

Apparently it is me who is creating a prison by not just doing the things that I want to do. I just give into others assuming I am the one who causes there emotions when I don't do what they want.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Good on Centrelink!

WOW! I never thought I'd ever say that. Centrelink have decided to acknowledge same sex partnerships. Now if only they would acknowledge Polyamorous cohabitation the world would look a little fairer.

Relationship Book

I am currently reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is a good, although the religious references got on my nerves a little but I just took them as fictional anecdotes to explain what he mean.

Why am I reading this book? Well it is simple I am somewhat retarded when it come to showing my affection, or atleast I believe, so I grabbed this book and started reading it because I want my wife to know how much I love her and I don't think I've been doing a good job of it.

"So what are these five languages?" I here you ask. Well they are Quality Time, Words of affirmation, Gifts, Acts of service, and Physical Touch. So I am ploughing through this book at a great rate .oO(well for me anyway) and picking up pointers and I can see that the languages that I am weak on may just be the Languages that my wife most strongly understands. I have a lot more to learn from this book and a lot more work to do in my relationship.

I recommend having a pen and notepad close handy if your reading this book for the ideas that it gives and it also suggests a portable notepad for when you are with your partner to keep notes on ideas you have or the ones that are subtly hinted .oO(i'm still no good with subtle).